March 10, 2013
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Can people change?
Well, of course people change after you've known them for a while. That's how people drift apart, how friendships shatter, and how relationships end. That's the "bad" sort of change though, isn't it? That I've seen many times. But what I'm asking about is the good kind of change. When someone tells me they've changed or that they will change, should I believe them and hope that it'll happen? A friend recently told me that people will never change and that the same things will always come back and bite you in the ass, even though they claim that they will change. Should I take that as the truth, or should I continue to hold out and hope that things will actually be different this time?
Comments (3)
Change is always possible to a certain extent. Sadly, it's often only temporary. In cases like this it's best to expect the worst, but hope for the best. Then you won't be disappointed
If someone changes, they're not gonna tell you they changed because they probably don't realize it themselves that they changed. Those who claimed to have changed or claim that they will change, they would have to show to you so that you can see the change. Otherwise, it won't mean much until they do (if they do).
No, that whole people never change attitude is too defeatist and you seem like a happy person. And hope and happiness are somewhat inter-related. Don't give up hope that they'll change. It'll make you a less happy person.